"We Thought We Were Leaving Too!!!!"

06--05-2009

1405 Hours

Well it’s a little after 2:00 on Friday and I find myself watching Dar sleep peacefully after having a great session with Mike in physical therapy. Dar was fantastic in the standing frame, holding her own weight, legs fully extended and laughing with Mike and I. Turning her head from left to right more than I have seen her ever do, dropping her chin to her chest and then picking her head up to look at the stars. It was amazing. Mike seems to think Dar holds back on these days when I am not here.

You are probably asking yourself; Danny I thought Dar was moving to Caremeridian last Tuesday? If that were your question you would be correct. Unfortunately as long as Dar has a fever she cannot be transferred. This was a huge let down. I was so looking forward to the move, especially having seen what I saw today it makes me more excited to think what she will be able to do with the special attention she will get with the folks at CareMeridian.

Now we have some other complications. The bed that Dar had at CareMeridian had to go another patient within the hospital. Totally understandable, that’s the way it should be. This latest development affects us like this. The next available bed is on Friday the 12^th, another on the 15^th.We need to be free of the fever for a minimum of 24-48 hours before we can transfer to another facility.

Now, the real problem is Anthem Blue Cross, they have been very pushy about getting Dar out of Kentfield. So much that Dar’s doctors have to call and talk to the Anthem peer doctor on a daily basis. Specifically this means that as soon as Dar is “stable”, Blue Cross is going to want her to be moved, “out of dodge”, tootalou bye bye. NO MORE COVERAGE, DENIED, KAPOOT, ASTA LAVISTA BABY, MOVE HER TO ANOTHER FACILITY.

Now we play the numbers game. Hoping the timing of Dar’s loss of fever will match that of when the bed is available at CareMeridian. Otherwise I will have to make a major decision.

As in a game of poker, part of the strategy is to not give away you hand. I will say this, I am not ready to give up hope for the bed at CareMeridian and I have a couple of “aces” up my sleeve. The next few days are very critical for Dar. Please, please say your prayers that Dar’s timing will be perfect, that Doctor Waters will be able to deal with Anthem on Dar’s behalf allowing her to remain at Kentfield for a short time longer. Doc Waters has assured me that she will do everything she can for Dar and her future.

I have to say that the more contact I have with the staff at CareMeridian, the more impressed I am about the future for Dar and I. Although I have not met AnnMarie, Director of Admissions, we have been emailing for about 3 weeks. AnnMarie has been nothing short of amazing. The staff is looking forward to having Dar and being part of Dar’s Dream Team. We cannot wait to “move on up” to the next step. Again, please pray that this hurdle will be overcome for Dar.

I am going to stay overnight tonight and I think Christine is coming up tomorrow to be with Dar and be “watchgaurd” of the fever issue for the remainder of the weekend. I will return home tomorrow afternoon.

Well, that kind of gives you an idea of what has transpired since yesterday afternoon at 3:00.

Please if you feel that you can help or give suggestions how I might fight off this insurance monster, please leave a comment, leave a thought, call someone who might know a way to slay this unfriendly giant. Dar’s future is at stake, as well as mine. You don’t want to hear of some of the alternatives that have been suggested. That is why I am keeping a couple of “aces in the hole”.

I am not usually one to ask for help, but this time I am. I could use some help on this one, I appreciate all of your prayers and support.

We love you all,

Dar/Danny